💖 Valentine’s Day Through a Conscious Lens: Love Beyond Illusion 💖
Rethinking Love: Presence Over Projection
Most people think love should complete them… but what if that belief is actually keeping them stuck in unconscious patterns?
Valentine's Day, as celebrated in modern society, often amplifies unconscious relationship patterns. People project their desires and expectations onto their partners, seeking validation, security, or an escape from loneliness.
But when love is based on need rather than conscious connection, it creates an imbalance—the victim and the saviour, the chaser and the withdrawer. Instead of celebrating love, many find themselves trapped in roles dictated by conditioningrather than true presence.
🌀Unconscious Love vs. Conscious Love
In unconscious relationships, partners often look to each other to fill an inner void. They believe that love should complete them, unaware that two incomplete halves do not make a whole—they create a bigger hole of unmet expectations and disappointment.
As life presents challenges—financial strain, conflicting relationship dynamics, health crises—the cracks widen. Instead of facing these experiences as conscious partners, old wounds surface, and the negative ego takes control, leading to blame, resentment, or withdrawal.
🌿 Conscious love, on the other hand, is rooted in presence and self-awareness. It does not seek to possess or complete another. Instead, it allows each person to be whole within themselves, sharing love as an overflowing wellspring rather than a desperate search for fulfilment.
✨ True love is not about clinging to an idea of “the one” but about loving life itself and extending that energy outward.
💙 Solitude Over Stagnation
Many remain in dead relationships out of fear—fear of loneliness, fear of change, or fear of societal judgment. But staying in an unfulfilling partnership is far worse than being alone.
💫 Solitude is not loneliness; it is an opportunity to connect with your deeper self. If you cannot find peace in solitude, no partner can ever satisfy that restless mind. Love cannot be forced where it has already faded, nor should it be used to mask an inner void that only presence and self-acceptance can heal.
🎭 The Commercialisation of Love
Valentine's Day has unfortunately become a spectacle of materialism. The pressure to buy expensive gifts, book overpriced restaurant dinners, and orchestrate grand romantic gestures often overshadows the essence of love itself.
💡 What if love were not confined to a single day? What if every day was a celebration of presence, connection, and appreciation for the people in our lives?
💫 Love as a Spiritual Experience
The great Sufi mystic Rumi wrote about the Beloved—not as a person, but as the divine presence within. When one aligns with this higher love, they cease searching for completion in another. Instead, love flows effortlessly, enriching all aspects of life. In this space, relationships become sacred unions where two whole beings come together, not to possess, but to share.
“Through your grace, I have found a treasure within myself. I have found the truth of the Unseen world. I have come upon the eternal ecstasy.” — Rumi
🔥 Moving Beyond Projection to Conscious Partnership
In any relationship, challenges will arise—but they serve as catalysts for growth, not reasons to project pain onto the other.
💡 We all carry a “pain body”—an inherited energy pattern from our family, ancestors, and society. Unconsciously, this pain can take over, leading us to overreact to the smallest triggers. Sound familiar? 🤯
Conscious relationships require:
✅ Self-awareness
✅ Inner work
✅ The ability to hold space for both joy & discomfort
Instead of expecting a partner to “make” you happy, focus on embodying happiness within yourself. 💛
Take a moment to reflect: “What makes you truly happy?”
🌱 7 Key Tips to Cultivate True Love & Presence
Whether you are alone on this day or in a romantic partnership, true love begins within and extends outward. Here’s how to cultivate deeper connections in all areas of life:
💖 Practice Self-Love — Meditate, walk in nature, start a creative hobby, or simply rest. Love starts within.
💖 Be Present with Others — Whether it’s a partner, friends, family, or pets, give them your full attention. 🎧
💖 Give Without Expectation — Write a heartfelt note, cook a meal, or offer help without needing anything in return.
💖 Extend Love Beyond Romance — Cherish the love you share with parents, children, friends, and pets. 🐾
💖 Release Societal Pressure — You don’t need grand gestures to prove love. Small, consistent moments matter more.
💖 Practice Gratitude — Each day, reflect on the love already present in your life. 🙏
💖 Embody Love Daily — Instead of making love conditional on one day a year, make it a daily practice. 🕊️
💔 For Those Experiencing Divorce or Heartbreak
💥 Endings are painful, but they also mark the beginning of something new. A breakup or divorce often feels like a dissolution of identity—a type of death. But even in the darkness, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. 🌅
✔ Stay present with your emotions—don't suppress them.
✔ Nature heals—spend time outdoors, with animals, or with supportive friends. 🌿🐕
✔ Try something new—join a meditation class, yoga session, or start a hobby.
✔ Avoid numbing pain—skip the junk food, alcohol, porn, or Netflix binges
🛑 ✔ Seek guidance—work with a mentor who has truly walked the path.
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Closing Thoughts — and A Fabulous Healing Track 💖
This Valentine’s Day, let go of societal pressure and return to what love truly is: a state of being, not a transaction.
💫 Celebrate love daily—not through obligation, but through presence.
In doing so, love ceases to be a fleeting illusion and becomes the very fabric of existence. 💖🌍
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Jaime T
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Thanks for the video 432hz clip! Great stuff to listen to when working. Also love your point about solitude vs stagnation.
And don't use AI to write your Valentine's card!
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Love as a spiritual experience:
Once there was a boy who gave a girl twelve roses. Eleven of them were real, one was plastic. Then he told her he will love her until the last one dies.
It was a promise he never took back.
But then one horrible day she died instead, and as her absence filled his world, he begged:
If tears could build a stairway,
and memories a lane,
I'd march right up to heaven
and bring you home again.
But no matter the depth of his grief, no such stairway ever appeared. As the years trickled by ever so painfully, on occasion he would wake up feeling fine.
Then he’d remember.
As the breaking wheel of time turned and his youth and hope fled him he went to her garden:
An old man kneeling all alone
Plants a plastic rose in a garden of stone
For seventy years now she's been gone
But his devotion is still going strong
She looked down and her heart was lost.
She whispered:
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am diamond glints on snow.
I am sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awake and greet the dawn
I am the day as it is born
I am birds in circling flight
I am the soft starlight at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there.
I did not die.
He looked up with a lighter heart and sighed, “thank you”. After seventy years his loneliness finally fled him. He was no longer kneeling all alone. Her presence filled his world.
He retrieved her rose and renewed his promise.
Much more like this here: https://tritorch.substack.com/p/an-old-man-kneeling-all-alonean-ultimately
Happy Valentines Day!